Manhood redefined.

We, men, are human beings and we deserve to live as human beings without acting as if we were something else. Without pretending to be someone else.

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“Man up”

This is for everyone at the bottom. For everyone at the bottom mentally, emotionally, or physically. The “I’m not a good enough son to my father”, the “I’m not man enough”, the “I no longer value my life” kind of bottom.

If the idea of being happy, the idea of being content with yourself, and most importantly, having confidence in yourself is something you deeply desire, I understand you. At some point in life, many of us have gone through this rock bottom period. I am concerned. And I’m here to help you.

Or if you read the words above and think to yourself, “I understand the feeling, but that’s not me” — yet you still feel unproud and stuck in your old habit pattern, there’s hope for change. Other men have gone through this.

You’re not alone.

I have been there. The groups and men I’ve led have been there. 

Let’s talk. Get skilled in the psychology within you. Develop strong empathic voice to have your core needs met. Learn to be you, no matter what.

These all sink deep into our psyche. Our surroundings, society, our friends and family — at some point they make us feel we have to prove ourselves. Prove that we’re good enough to be sons for our fathers. Prove we’re strong enough to be men for our society. Prove we’re responsible enough to be there for our partners. Prove that we are… you name it.

Us men are not that different.

Some of us, we didn’t have a father figure. A father open enough, attentive enough, one who is firm but caring. He wasn’t properly prepared for his role either. Or maybe there were others who neglected him. Now we feel the pressure from society to “man up”. And we ask ourselves, what the hell does that mean? Where do you start? Can I be man enough if I didn’t have a positive example as a kid? Am I doomed here?

Many of us were brought up by women. Mothers at home, teachers in schools. Its impact on our growing minds was strong enough to make us feel averse to any male aggression. We never learned to be assertive. We refused to take up challenges. We made a vow to please others and we took a stance of a nice guy who won’t admit his own needs.

Many of us feel shame:

I am too sensitive. I’m not responsible enough. Not strong enough, not wealthy, nor am I brave enough. I can’t stand up for myself.

I’m not sensitive enough, too stern.

I am afraid. I fear too much. I must know how to deal with things, but I don’t…

I don’t know how to be myself. 

I am homosexual, bisexual, transgender, or I’m just different than “the majority” of men.

I am afraid others will see me the way I truly am. 

We have wounds. And these wounds get in the way as we strive for intimate connection with other people. We envy, we control, we abuse, we compete, or we avoid others altogether. Even though we don’t want to.

There are many of us. Many of us take our lives, damn it.

It doesn’t have to be this way.

Be you.

The truth is, there’s no true definition of manhood out there. It lies within. And it is for you to create.

With a little help you will develop the courage to be vulnerable, responsible, authentic. The courage to be you. You will work on your emotional intelligence to deepen your intimate relationships and your communication skills. You will work to strengthen your empathy for others and for your own self. You will learn to take ownership for what life has to offer for you.

Let's talk. The first call is on me.

Join our brotherhood.

In the vacuum of today's consumer and flat media society, this form of masculinity search is needed like fresh water. Men are made sick by the totality of myths, cliches, forms and norms of the society. I am happy to claim bravely that what all of the TIKRAS team are doing is needed, live, purposeful, and new. I hope it will grow into new a stage of masculine culture.

Paulius Kavoliūnas

It has changed my life, or to be precise hopefully I'm in the process of changing my life for the better. Seminars are worth their every moment as a breath of fresh air that helps move forward and not give up. Gratitude to Ignas, I'm really really happy I have found you and I can grow and improve alongside. Thanks to all the father-sun seminar participants.

Boris Belchev

First of all gratitude to Ignas. An amazing course curator, that's what I'd call him. I'm grateful with all my heart to those who make these meetings possible. My heart's singing, for it was good to get listened to, to listen to another and discuss. There's no pressure to open up, yet it keeps happening naturally. Respect to the men who're able to come, to look into their childhood, to speak up, to talk about their problems. It all depends on us.

Paulius Malinauskas

What it takes to be me.

I remember feeling a deep void within. The way me and my father connected created a place deep inside that’s empty. I was longing for “I’m proud of you”. Missing the encouragement. Lacking support so much so that my little mind ended up believing the heavy lie that “I am not enough.”

It took a journey to realize it’s me who can connect with that little boy inside and help him meet his needs. It is me who can finally take responsibility for the feelings I feel and the actions I take. It is me who determines what it takes “to be enough.”

Nice to meet you. I’m an existential coach. Emotional awareness, relationships, and self-confidence are my specialty. Nine years of meditation practice comes as a gift for awareness and empathy needed to really listen and deeply connect. In group and individual work I help men re-inhabit themselves. They unlearn what’s toxic and reinforce what’s healthy in them. 

My clients are those who are mature enough to ask uncomfortable questions. I work with men brave enough to admit their flaws. I work with those who stays true to themselves even if it hurts.

What it takes to be me.

I remember feeling a deep void within. The way me and my father connected created a place deep inside that’s empty. I was longing for “I’m proud of you”. Missing the encouragement. Lacking support so much so that my little mind ended up believing the heavy lie that “I am not enough.”

It took a journey to realize it’s me who can connect with that little boy inside and help him meet his needs. It is me who can finally take responsibility for the feelings I feel and the actions I take. It is me who determines what it takes “to be enough.”

Nice to meet you. I’m an existential coach. Emotional awareness, relationships, and self-confidence are my specialty. Nine years of meditation practice comes as a gift for awareness and empathy needed to really listen and deeply connect. In group and individual work I help men re-inhabit themselves. They unlearn what’s toxic and reinforce what’s healthy in them. 

My clients are those who are mature enough to ask uncomfortable questions. I work with men brave enough to admit their flaws. I work with those who stays true to themselves even if it hurts.

Think with me.