Manhood redefined.

We, men, are human beings and we deserve to live as human beings without acting as if we were something else. Without pretending to be someone else than we are.

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“Man up”

This is for everyone at the bottom. For everyone at the bottom mentally, emotionally, or physically. The “I’m not man enough”, the “I’m not a good enough husband”, the “I no longer value life” kind of bottom. If feeling content with yourself is what you deeply desire, I understand. 

You’re not alone.

I’ve been there. The men I’ve led have been there. You can develop a strong emphatic voice and have your core needs met in life. And you can develop a habit to be you. No matter what.

These all sink deep into our psyche. Our surroundings, society, our friends and family — at some point they make us feel we have to prove ourselves. Prove that we’re good enough to be sons for our fathers. Prove we’re strong enough to be men for our society. Prove we’re responsible enough to be there for our partners. Prove that we are… you name it.

Some of us, we didn’t have a father.

A father who’s open enough, attentive enough, one who’s firm and caring. He had’t been properly prepared for his role either. Or maybe there had been those who neglected him in the past. Now we feel the pressure from society to “man up” and we ask ourselves, what the hell does that mean? Where do you start? Can I even be a man if I haven’t had a positive example? 

Many of us were brought up by women.

Mothers at home, teachers in schools. Its impact on our growing minds was strong enough to make us feel averse to any male aggression. We never learned to be assertive. We refused to take up challenges. We made a vow to please others and we took a stance of a nice guy who won’t admit his own needs.

Many of us feel shame.

I am too sensitive. I’m not responsible enough. Not strong enough, not wealthy, nor am I brave enough. I can’t stand up for myself.

I’m not sensitive enough, too stern.

I am afraid. I fear too much. I must know how to deal with things, but I don’t…

I don’t know how to be myself. 

I am homosexual, bisexual, transgender, or I’m just different than “the majority” of men.

I am afraid others will see me the way I truly am. 

We have wounds.

And these wounds get in the way as we strive for intimate connection with other people. We envy, we control, we abuse, we compete, or we avoid others altogether. Even though we don’t want to.

There are many of us. 

Many of us take our lives, damn it.

And it doesn’t have to be this way.

The truth is, there's no true definition of manhood out there.

It lies within. And it is for you to create.

We gather weekly in groups of men.

Why? Because it is in the presence of other men that we can dare to reach within and do the work. Then we start undoing the knots of inferiority and uncover the very strength we’ve lost on the way to becoming adults.

Join our tribe.

In the vacuum of today's consumer and flat media society, this form of masculinity search is needed like fresh water. Men are made sick by the totality of myths, cliches, forms and norms of the society. I am happy to claim bravely that what all of the TIKRAS team are doing is needed, live, purposeful, and new. I hope it will grow into new a stage of masculine culture.

Paulius Kavoliūnas

It has changed my life, or to be precise hopefully I'm in the process of changing my life for the better. Seminars are worth their every moment as a breath of fresh air that helps move forward and not give up. Gratitude to Ignas, I'm really really happy I have found you and I can grow and improve alongside. Thanks to all the father-sun seminar participants.

Boris Belchev

First of all gratitude to Ignas. An amazing course curator, that's what I'd call him. I'm grateful with all my heart to those who make these meetings possible. My heart's singing, for it was good to get listened to, to listen to another and discuss. There's no pressure to open up, yet it keeps happening naturally. Respect to the men who're able to come, to look into their childhood, to speak up, to talk about their problems. It all depends on us.

Paulius Malinauskas

I remember feeling a void inside.

My relationship with my father created a place deep in me that’s empty. I was longing for I’m-proud-of-you’s. I was lacking the support so much so that my little mind ended up believing a heavy lie that “I am not enough.”

It took a journey to realize it’s my responsibility to connect with that small kid within. To really listen and help him meet his needs. It’s me who can finally take responsibility for the feelings I feel and the actions I take. And it’s me who finally determines what it takes to be enough.

This is me. A men’s work practitioner and existential coach by profession. Nine years of meditation practice proves to be a gift for awareness and empathy needed to listen and connect deeply. I create a healthy planet by helping men to re-inhabit themselves. To unlearn what’s toxic and reinforce what’s healthy in them. 

I remember feeling a void inside.

My relationship with my father created a place deep in me that’s empty. I was longing for I’m-proud-of-you’s. I was lacking the support so much so that my little mind ended up believing a heavy lie that “I am not enough.”

It took a journey to realize it’s my responsibility to connect with that small kid within. To really listen and help him meet his needs. It’s me who can finally take responsibility for the feelings I feel and the actions I take. And it’s me who finally determines what it takes to be enough.

This is me. A men’s work practitioner and existential coach by profession. Nine years of meditation practice proves to be a gift for awareness and empathy needed to listen and connect deeply. I create a healthy planet by helping men to re-inhabit themselves. To unlearn what’s toxic and reinforce what’s healthy in them. 

I remember feeling a void inside.

My relationship with my father created a place deep in me that’s empty. I was longing for I’m-proud-of-you’s. I was lacking the support so much so that my little mind ended up believing a heavy lie that “I am not enough.”

It took a journey to realize it’s my responsibility to connect with that small kid within. To really listen and help him meet his needs. It’s me who can finally take responsibility for the feelings I feel and the actions I take. And it’s me who finally determines what it takes to be enough.

This is me. A men’s work practitioner and existential coach by profession. Nine years of meditation practice proves to be a gift for awareness and empathy needed to listen and connect deeply. I create a healthy planet by helping men to re-inhabit themselves. To unlearn what’s toxic and reinforce what’s healthy in them. 

Think with me.