- Posted by admin
- On January 3, 2020
Getting to feel your emotions means becoming more subtle. It means noticing what you haven’t before. Emotions have always been there but you might have not paid attention to them because your mind was coarse. Focus your mind to subtler realities.
For this, pause. Allow yourself the time to slow down. If you’re pacing like a train behind schedule you’re unlikely to notice what you haven’t before. Leave some space before and after every thought. Pause and allow your mind to stay idle for a little while.
Once you’re able to slow down the train of thoughts you might be surprised what you find out about your mind. It thinks. All the time. No surprise — it’s had a lifetime of conditioning to dwell jumping from one thought to the other. Our survival mechanisms brought us to a habit of incessant thinking. It has grown so strong it’s become part of our nature, even though survival issues have been dealt with long ago.
The antidote is feeling. Our inner thinker has to take a break in order for us to be able to feel a feeling. There’s nothing inherently wrong in thinking — it’s one of the most important functions of rational beings. The problem is our lost capacity to take control of this function. The instrument seems to be taking over the controls!
And today’s dystopian story of the artificial intelligence taking over the human race seems scary. However, the same dystopia is taking place in our minds every day, when our thinking brain takes over our every other capacity. Our capacities to feel trough our emotions, to to know through our intuition, and even to sense through our body sensations all get discredited. This way signals from our sense organs, our intuition as well as our ability to empathize and even love, become weaker and weaker.
Developing a habit to feel your body sensations along with your emotions as often as possible, is what will gradually undo the Gordian knot and change the daunting habit to rationalize every aspect of your life.
Learning to feel is in some ways similar to learning to walk. As you start feeling what’s going on in your body and mind you might find yourself interpreting a lot and that’s not feeling. An element of trust in the process has to be there. We must trust our bodies and allow any feelings that come up, otherwise they will slip away from your hands like a wet bar of soap.
Emotions are complex — they have both physical and mental aspects to them. Dare to experiment. Try seeing how long at a stretch you can maintain awareness of your inner world. Ask yourself whether emotions or sensations are easier to be aware of. And be persistent. Try out different ways. Create your own methods to support you. Create indicators for when you haven’t been in touch with what you feel for too long. Be creative.
Whatever you do, it better be fun and stimulating — otherwise, how can you work? Motivation is essential here. See this learning process as an adventure. Find your own ways of learning that are authentic to you, ways that make you proud of yourself and show you’re creative. Be playful and celebrate failures. Develop an understanding that each failure is essential for your development.
See what you can do with this growing awareness of your body and mind. When you notice improvement, get creative. Find ways to use it in your daily life and see how it changes your habits and interactions: see how long you can maintain a conversation going while at the same time being aware of what arises inside. Find creative ways to express what you feel inside to what you do outside. See how it affects your relationships and ways you communicate with others.
Being aware of your emotions isn’t easy, especially in difficult situations. But it’s always worth the effort as it brings you closer to you. It takes you away from all the illusions about the reality you live in.